Blood
I come from a family where "blood" is very important....as in your family. Your "kin". For some it means you "stick with your blood family....right or wrong" which has meant when Divorce happens the non "blood" member is to be ignored...never spoken of again, and certainly not a continued relationship. Any connection with said individual is considered treason.
I don't live my life that way. If you are my family, you are always my family. I have an "aunt" who was only an aunt for 5 years at the most. She has NOT been my aunt longer than she legally was.
I also just aquired 2 nephews and a great niece.....they seemed startled when I told them "Hey! I am your aunt now" (they are in their 20's)
My grandmother has 4 step grandchildren....I would challenge an outsider to figure out who they are. She loves them equally.
I also consider some of my brothers and sisters in Christ, my friends to be family. I love them like I love actual "blood" relation.
Why Have I gotten into this thought process?
Charlie and I are considering adoption. Just considering. Haven;t done Home studies yet. Haven't applied to any agencies. We are waiting to see what God wants us to do with this door of our heart he is opening. Walk through it? Or wait?
I have been concerned that some of my family might not accept an adopted child. The children in our family that aren't "blood" are at least related to the spouse.
Our future child will not be. He/she might not even be the same race. How will my family react? How will they be treated?
I don't care if I actually give physical birth to all my children. I will love them no matter their sex/race/disability.
But will everyone?
DO I CARE?
I am not sure
I come from a family where "blood" is very important....as in your family. Your "kin". For some it means you "stick with your blood family....right or wrong" which has meant when Divorce happens the non "blood" member is to be ignored...never spoken of again, and certainly not a continued relationship. Any connection with said individual is considered treason.
I don't live my life that way. If you are my family, you are always my family. I have an "aunt" who was only an aunt for 5 years at the most. She has NOT been my aunt longer than she legally was.
I also just aquired 2 nephews and a great niece.....they seemed startled when I told them "Hey! I am your aunt now" (they are in their 20's)
My grandmother has 4 step grandchildren....I would challenge an outsider to figure out who they are. She loves them equally.
I also consider some of my brothers and sisters in Christ, my friends to be family. I love them like I love actual "blood" relation.
Why Have I gotten into this thought process?
Charlie and I are considering adoption. Just considering. Haven;t done Home studies yet. Haven't applied to any agencies. We are waiting to see what God wants us to do with this door of our heart he is opening. Walk through it? Or wait?
I have been concerned that some of my family might not accept an adopted child. The children in our family that aren't "blood" are at least related to the spouse.
Our future child will not be. He/she might not even be the same race. How will my family react? How will they be treated?
I don't care if I actually give physical birth to all my children. I will love them no matter their sex/race/disability.
But will everyone?
DO I CARE?
I am not sure
Labels: adoption
posted by Jackie at
11:03 PM
1 Comments:
Hey Jackie, Kevin and I thought about that as well. We once considered adoption, but decided not to for other reasons. What we concluded about the family accepting an adopted child is this: if they truly love you, your child, whether born from your stomach or your heart, will be part of the family, no matter what race it is. If there are some who treat it differently because of race or whatever, well, they will have to answer to God, won't they? And if that were to happen, I'm sure that with the size of your side of the family at least, there will be so much love that the child wouldn't even notice. And if it did, well just let me know. I have no qualms about saying what is on my mind, especially if a child feels "wronged" or whatever. :) I'm excited for you all, and can't wait to hear what you decide to do.
Heather
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